Emailing a blogger doesn’t have to be scary, but sometimes it is…

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When I first started exchanging emails with other bloggers, I felt like I was finally let in to a secret club. I am slightly less social than the average bear and I would see “check your email!” tweets fly about twitter and they would aggravate me to no end. Why? Quite simply, because I felt left out. Why didn’t I have any blogging friends passing me secret missives? Well, I had to make them.

It was a long hard road, but it got easier. I practiced. I still have the first email I ever sent to a blogger. It was in 2000 and about deodorant. Lovely. But, I got an answer and I still have that email. It was my first “bloggers are just like us” moment of many. When I restarted online under this moniker, one of the first people I emailed was Suzanne.  I don’t even think I used my blog email. It was something like “OMG I love you so much, tell me about your ring slings.” Whatever. She looked past it and we now send assy tweets telling each other to check for an email.

This is how I imagine Suzanne and I as neighbors:

 

Email is so important in maintaining online-based friendships. Sometimes I feel like you aren’t really connecting until you are sharing secrets like summer camp. And that isn’t just going to happen in a public forum. Plus, they are easier to store and catalog for blackmail later.

So, this brings me to the idea I had for maybe doing a blog series about how we met our online friends. I’m always so interested in finding out how people met. Most of my favorite people online I have met because Suzanne told me to follow them on twitter. Or they like the Real Housewives. I would love to ask a series of questions of have people tell a story of how they met someone on twitter or became email pals or real life besties? Fun? Not fun? Stupidest idea ever? Let me know.

 

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13 Responses to “Emailing a blogger doesn’t have to be scary, but sometimes it is…”

  1. Brigid Keely says:

    One of my absolute best friends ever, who I’ve been friends with since 1997, and who was one of the first people I called after I gave birth? We met on line in a chat room where we pretended to be vampires. RAWR. I have a LOT of friends I’ve met on line (many of them from various role playing chat rooms/sites) (nerd), so I am all over internet friendships and how real and vital they are.

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    Amy Reply:

    I love my online friends and I adore the diversity of opinion I can’t quite replicate in real life. Now I am intrigued by vampire chat rooms. Intrigued, but also a little afraid.

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    Brigid Keely Reply:

    I started roleplaying table top (pen and paper) and LARP (live action… dressing up in costumes, basically improv theater) in 1997 when I was still in high school. I left my old groups behind when I went to college, had some problems finding new nerds, and turned to the internet. As one does.

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  2. TMae says:

    I have a core group of women, all of whom I’ve met online, that I consider to be my besties. I think because we established our interaction online, it’s been easier for us to communicate and grow our friendship using technology. My “meat” friends (that’s how one of my online friends refers to friends she didn’t meet online) aren’t on Twitter, or really even on FB that often. They don’t really blog, or participate in online communities the way I do. (Of course, my internet presence is sort of on the DL, so maybe their’s is too.)

    I think the series is a great idea. I think it would be fun to read what people have to say about it – I think it would also be interesting to hear how we think our internet lives differ from our meat lives, and why.

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    Amy Reply:

    “meat” friends is delightfully sinister. I am stealing it. Ok. I think I’m doing this. Think about who you want to talk about.

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  3. Some Mother says:

    As a beginner in this whole realm, this totally resonates!! I think it’s a great idea and could facilitate mentorship also…. just this morning I emailed a Blogger to apologize for a blunder I made… sigh. So your post and idea are very heartening!!

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    Amy Reply:

    Thanks! It is SO stressful to email someone for the first time. I seriously freak out. It is also why I have quit every job I ever attempted that involved cold calling.

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  4. Suzanne says:

    I love you. A sort of insane amount seeing as how we are still only internet friends (SOON TO BE REAL LIFE FRIENDS OMG BLOGHER IS SO SOOOOOOOON).

    Do you know I think about how I’ve become friends with people online ALL THE TIME? Mostly while I’m driving in the car. I start trying to think back to the very first time we talked or I read their blog or we tweeted. For a lot of people it’s HARD, because it feels like we’ve ALWAYS been friends (ahem YOU ahem).

    Ironically, there are very very few bloggers I email with, just because I am too shy and worry they are too busy to respond EVEN THOUGH getting email from my online friends is just about my favorite thing ever. Am crazy.

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    Amy Reply:

    I very rarely initiate anything for the same reason. I’m starting to think we need matching “we’re the same kind of crazy” bracelets or something.

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  5. TheNextMartha says:

    @Guiltysquid and I became friends on the twitter. We went from tweets to Gchat to phone calls. In Dec. She flew to Chicago to surprise me for my birthday. It was the most amazing thing anyone has ever done for me.

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    Amy Reply:

    So… if I decide to run a series, you’ll contribute how you two met?

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    TheNextMartha Reply:

    of course!

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