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Trying to make 2011 full of the happy.

Tuesday, March 8th, 2011

The title of this post matches my twitter profile bio. I put it there after I wrote this post and my dear friend Eileen of Bringing Up Bronwyn suggested that I try and make 2011 full of the happy. Wise words. I thought I was working on it, but really I am still teetering on crabby and unhappy a good part of my days. So, I got to thinking (dangerous business, I know) and I realized that I was approaching this all wrong.

I was so focused on external things making me cranky or past things making me sad that I missed the point. I’ve been in a list-making mood today, so while I was in the shower (where I do all my best thinking) I started thinking about what things I missed most about not having a kid and then I realized that I should write them out and actively work on the ones that are fixable.  So, in lieu of a resolutions update this month (going pretty well, thankyouverymuch), I thought I would do a little list here and see if you guys can help me solve all my problems because you are all so smart. And pretty.

  1. No alone time. This one is probably the trickiest. Spencer only naps for about an hour alone in the pack-n-play or crib, which is my only chance to exercise, which I don’t like enough for it to be a fun use of my only alone time. So, I’ve been slacking. I try going for walks in the morning before we hit the park, but it isn’t much of a workout. And Spencer is super sensitive to me not being in the room when hubs is home, so I can’t just pop in the other room and get a workout or read a magazine or anything. I either need to get him to nap better, go for longer walks or make better use of the single hour I get. I am a loner. I crave alone time. I turn in to an uber-bitch when I don’t get it.
  2. Constant touching. I was not prepared for this one, at all. The touching, poking, patting never stops. Obviously, I didn’t spend that much time around kids because I am sure it is normal, but it gets to a point where it makes me skin crawl, especially Spencer sticking his arm and hand down my shirt. Again, it is perfectly normal, but even when he isn’t pinching or scraping his nails along my flesh, it is still there. A constant appendage and I hate it. I don’t think anything can be done about this one, though.
  3. So very very loud. I have sensitive hearing. I always have. Not to the point where I am hearing supersonic dog noises, but I am sensitive to the loud: electronics, banging, sneezing, toddlers. There isn’t much cure for the loudness of a child, but I can make sure the TV is as low as possible, turn it off more often, make him stop watching Dora and Diego (the loudest of all tv shows). Or constantly wear earplugs…
  4. I miss reading books. In all honesty, the internet is as much to blame for this one as parenthood. I need to make an effort. I hope throwing it out into the ether helps.
  5. I haven’t traveled on a plane in years.I can not let fear of flying (with a toddler, not the dirty Jong kind) rule my life. There is no good reason why I couldn’t take Spencer to NYC to visit my sister. Unless of course she doesn’t want us.
  6. Soup or Salad Blog Ok. So this doesn’t have anything to do with parenting, but it is making me unhappy and I am doing it to myself, so I thought I would tack it on to the end of the list. This one is completely my own fault. I decided I wanted to post on Soup or Salad Blog 3 times a week and have tried SO HARD to stick to it, but after the recent spate of error and struggles to find content, it is just not worth it. When I make a great recipe, I will post it. When I find a great guest post, I’ll put it up. BUT. I am done with putting content pressure on myself. If you find something good, pass it along, I’ll put it up for sure. But I couldn’t do it with a partner and I turns out I can’t do it on my own either.

Resolutions Update

Thursday, February 3rd, 2011

Back in January, I made 11 resolutions for 2011. If there is one thing I learned in my old job it is that things to do not improve with out monitoring and accountability. I thought at the end of each month it would be a good idea to check in and see how I am doing. Also, it might not be a bad idea to evaluate the goals themselves monthly. Are they still what I would like to achieve? Is there something else that is more important? It is certainly worth a look.

1. Tweet less. Doing well. Still tweeting a ton, but no longer obsessively.

2. Care about my appearance more. Been working on combing hair and wearing makeup. Still wear the same jeans every day. My new obsession with Keiko Lynn inspired me try lipstick again in February.

3. Eat sweets less. Not happening. Cinnamon Jelly Hearts are out and I can’t stop eating them. Not buying another bag. And I still have spiced jelly beans to contend with around Easter.

4. Write more. I’m just not making this a priority and it is probably the least important. Debating about switching this out for read one book a month.

5. Watch TV less. Going pretty well. We don’t turn on the TV until Yo Gabba Gabba at 10 and turn it off at 11 or 12. It comes back on after nap time, but I am going to work on limiting that down to just his favorite show at 330.

6. Comment More This is going well. I’ve been answering every comment here, but I may not continue. I think I am going to try, but on posts like the tattoo post, I don’t really see the need. Also, wordless wednesday. I think most people don’t want a comment back. Or leave the box unchecked. Either way, I am wasting my time. I would rather but some effort in to commenting more on other blogs.

7. Follow annoying people on Twitter less. I have a few people I am still on the fence about breaking up with, but overall I am using that unfollow button a lot more easily. I’m also unliking and hiding a ton of people/blogs on facebook.

8.Monetize more. Formulating a plan. Nothing set in motion yet.

9. Complain less. When I tried to name all 11 resolutions before I looked them up to copy for this post, I could only name 10. This is the one I forgot about. I need to work on not complaining about internet drama to my husband. That is what I am going to attempt for Feb.

10. Complete more. I must admit that I bought craft supplies, got everything out during a nap and realized I was out of glue. That project is still not finished, but I bought glue. Progress!

11. Make do with less. Two big garbage bags of clothes went to the thrift store. 4 more items were listed on Vintage Peach, but I should unpack and evaluate the other box in storage. I need to make unloading some books a plan for February. I have a bag ready to take to the used bookstore, I need to get that done in Feb. I have been thinking extra hard before I bring any new non-consumables in to the house.

Score: 7.5/11 (better than expected)

11 Resolutions for 2011

Saturday, January 1st, 2011

1. Tweet less. Anyone who watched the madness of my last two weeks of tweeting knows the importance of this one. When I set goals, I meet them, but there is no way that was healthy. Fun? Yes. A good idea? Probably not.

2. Care about my appearance more. Contrary to popular opinion, Eileen, these first two do not go hand in hand. It was even quitting work. It was the BangsOfDoom from June. I hated my hair so much for so many months I didn’t even want to leave the house. I wore dirty jeans. I’ve JUST started wearing make-up again

3. Eat sweets less. I want to look hot for BlogHer. I suppose I should also exercise.

4. Write more. I mean really write. I have some things I want to say. Maybe here, maybe somewhere else, but there are stories on the tips of my fingers, itching to climb out.

5. Watch TV less. Pretty much self explanatory. I do not need to watch each episode of Top Chef every time it is on.

6. Comment more. I read all of your blogs. I don’t always comment because I want to leave meaningful comments that ad to the conversation. Or I was to make you laugh. And I hate drive by comments. BUT. I think there is a middle ground. I am determined to find it. All else fails, I will let you know which of the voices in my head liked your post the most.

7. Follow annoying people on Twitter less. This should be a no brainer, but I let myself get annoyed with people and forget that I control who I follow. Times are a changing.

8.Monetize more. Tacky? Sure. Honest? No doubt. There has to be a way to make a little money here without selling my soul or being annoying.

9. Complain less. I bitch and moan and complain all the time. In person on twitter.This has to stop. I need to take action and fix things that are fixable. Talking about them endlessly is a waste of time. Also, this one is pretty easy. I just said complain LESS, which given the volume of complaining I do on a day to day basis, this won’t be very hard.

10. Complete more. I start things and don’t finish them. I buy craft supplies and leave them in the bag. I start blogs and abandon them. I open Etsy stores and don’t stock them. This needs to stop.

11. Make do with less. This was just a polite way of saying that I need to get rid of a ton of crap.

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